Will the family problems ruin your life?

Having a broken family, some youths virtually ruin their lives. Some make stupid decisions, such as to quit school. Others vent their frustrations and anger by misbehaving – as if to punish their parents. They think their parents were selfish that they didn’t really think about their children. This may be true. But can you go through life carrying a load of anger and bitterness and not harm yourself?

The only one punished by wrongdoing is the wrongdoer. There is a “time to heal”. And just as a literal wound, like a broken bone, can take weeks or even months to heal completely, emotional wounds take time to heal. Accepting both the reality and permanence of having a broken family is a big step toward getting over it. Let all the bitterness, anger and wrath be taken away from you and learn to forgive someone who has hurt you so deeply. You may find it helpful to confide someone, instead of isolating yourself. Above all, you can find a hearing ear with your heavenly Father.

Things may never be the same again. This does not mean, though, that your life cannot be fruitful and happy one. Instead of allowing yourself to become immobilized by grief, hurt or anger, get on with your life! Get involved in your school work. Pursue a hobby. It will take work, determination and the passing of time. But eventually having a broken family will no longer be the dominant thing in your life.